Positive Parenting: How to understand and help a child with anxiety during Covid-19

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Positive Parenting: How to understand and help a child with anxiety during Covid-19

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School has been out for over a month now and some children may be anxious about what comes next and might be even more so if and when they do return to school.

There are many other triggers that may make a child anxious in any given situation

All children experience some level of anxiety. Some of the signs include agitation, restlessness, inattention or poor focus, somatic symptoms like headaches or stomach aches, withdrawal, or tantrums. Sometimes, your child might even refuse to engage in an activity they once enjoyed. Our role as parents and carers is to understand this anxiety and help children to overcome it.

Why does this happen? Signals in the child’s brain perceive a threat or danger (even if there is none).

Your child may be worried about changing teacher, the increased homework, or starting a new school. The body is then flooded with a stress hormone (cortisol), which causes a child to react in a certain way. The key is to regulate this part of the brain through sensory engagement, calming supports and thinking strategies.

An important way to support your child if they are feeling anxious is to ensure they feel connected and safe. Research tells us that children need 12 physical touches/connections to feel connected to a parent in one day. So give plenty of hugs and cuddles, especially before and after transitions.

I highly recommend 15 minutes of un-interrupted play time with your child per day. Let the child lead, and choose the game that they want to play with you.

Think of engaging all your children’s senses. Sensory and messy play is great to help regulate your child and could also be a great activity for you both.

Tactile play with slime, play dough, or messy materials can be fun. Other sensory approaches may involve using lavender oils, which can have a calming effect, or citrus smells which can help uplift, if your child tends to disassociate or withdraw.

Encourage the use of your child’s imagination by getting them to draw or role play their worry. Help them challenge the “what if’s” (your child’s worry) always come to a positive conclusion and state how as a parent you will help the child overcome the worry.

When you play together, facilitate empowerment and confidence by creating little challenges that the child can overcome, “woah, you didn’t think that you could do that and you did it!” I knew you could do it”.

This article was contributed by Claudia Maloccas, Play Therapist with Hospital FRC, a member of Parenting Limerick. Parenting Limerick is a network of parenting and family support organisations. For more information on this and other topics go to www.loveparenting.ie.